January 23, 2011

Punch size, regardless…assured metamorphosis!

Posted in Overcoming obstacles tagged , , , , , , , at 9:31 am by Venus Viswambharan

Looking back 7 years, we as a family had a long crisis. We were then thinking it would kill us or at least mentally maim me and my husband. It looked like it would go on for ever! Leave it behind we did, not realizing that we passed through the appalling, self perceived wall,only  after growing robust. It left us with distinct and clear lessons.  Today we have come full circle to the same situation, it is only now, we comprehend- oh how well geared up we are to handle the same. With no complaints, no ill feelings but a stronger much better capacitated self, instead what we sigh out now is just gratitude to the lord for placing that particular challenge into our lives!

What comes to mind is Marriane Williamsons words :

“Sometimes people think calling on God means inviting a force into our lives that will make everything rosy. The truth is, it means inviting everything into our lives that will make us grow–and growth can be messy. The purpose of life is to grow into our perfection “.

“Distinct and clear lessons” I mentioned, which are :

1.      Not only does the worst pass , it leaves you nimble , invigorated and evolved! Were it not for this crisis we would never have come out renewed!

2.      The situations never changed , coming full circle to the same point , what was very discernible was: what changed was our Perceptions of the SITUATION! “No complaints “I had mentioned earlier– Not that we did not have blessings too, back then, we were just blind to  them – we had a myriad of blessings, but what did we focus on? We focused on all the things we did not want, we were paralyzed and bitterly zoned in on our challenges! What we saw, thought and felt about the situation 7 years back and what we do today is different. Today it is better, there is trust, there is confidence,there is humour, and largely there is Appreciation.  Not just between ourselves but towards others too. These were changes WITHIN the both of us, not WITHOUT! 

3.      The world is not a perfect place with perfect people & situations if it were, it would be so monotonous. What is a more vital inference is, we would never know how beautiful , limitless and powerful our intrinsic soul is, until we had a contrast against which we knew this ‘souls’ value . We live in a world of dualities: You could not know Warm without Cold, Up without Down, Fast without Slow. You could not know Left without Right, Here without There, Now without Then. Hence both exist and are required so that with one (no matter how low or not so bearable the low may be) can you then only measure the other’s worth (high/good parts of the dualities).

4.      No matter how many times we had heard it , it just never drove home – was something that was absolute and unchanging through every circumstance, the fact that the creator loved us UNCONDITIONALLY! It was blatant! What bewildered us was that no matter what we thought, what we felt, how we behaved , he just loved us. He carefully paved the path for our metamorphosis! Providing just the right people , just the right material & circumstances to fortify each one of us in this family


I have not mentioned the crisis , there were a series of them … my only message being , no matter what the challenge or our self percieved size of the challenge :

  • Your spouse leaving you after many years of marriage,
  • A terrible illness you find out about ,
  • A loss of job ,
  • You living alone and struggling without family,
  • Your kid doing something inconceivable after you having invested so much of your sweat and blood in him,
  • People being mean or manipulative or even maligning you,
  • Living with a big family and suffering through home politics inspite of all your patient efforts with all.
  • Suffering through office politics albeit you work earnestly.


Through it all there is someone much larger than you and me , holding you, through it all , loving you , empowering you ! Open your eyes see him in the people and situations around you , see him operating silently, carving a luminous radiant “YOU”  .




  1. Sharon Taylor Richardson said,

    Thank you for sending this to me Venus. The Potter molds us and shapes us. Some times this is a painful experience but we emerge a beautiful vessel, filled with His Love ♥

  2. liji said,

    good one venus

  3. Sonal said,

    The article is very well written, and very inspiring … and I truly believe in the very fact that there is assured metamorphosis, no matter how long it takes.

  4. Priyanshu said,

    Really inspiration for us…….The only thng came to my mind, “Be brave! Be brave! Man dies but once!” Who would not be inspired by the above words…? Consider every situation of our life as a source of Absolute Truth…………………………..

  5. Ravi said,

    Amazing article mam,
    Now when I look back at worst times in my life, I can totally connect it from you message, Totally agreed, growth can b messy sometimes. 🙂


  6. Shivani Talwar said,

    Nice artilcle Venus. I totally believe in it.
    In times of trouble God doesn’t walk side by side, instead God picks us up on his shoulders !

  7. Amardeep S Siddhu said,

    Yes, its true that we are potters pot and are being shaped by “HIM”! Your testimony is inspiring and its nice to know that YOU BOTH stood the test of time!

  8. Deepti Gujar said,

    Thank You Venus. Have we met somewhere recently? 🙂
    Good to connect.
    Love and Light,
    Deepti Gujar

  9. joy said,

    Growing up in years also involves evolving as a better human being. This process entails many challenging situations and circumstances. How one meets these ensures one’s evolution into a better person. Just as pruning gives you better plants, so the Gardener prunes us to be better and wiser people. Ever wondered at the beauty of a bonsai?
    Many of our challenges are points of learning. Introspection leads us to that point. I’m glad Venus that you can tell others what you have learned from your experiences, at such a young age. Stay Blessed!

  10. sanjiwan said,

    Thanks alot sis for sharing this.

  11. Prashasta said,

    The key is to hang on there!

  12. Amazing………..you were able to say in few words the various crises in most people’s lives, how we emerge coming out stronger and the FAITH which pulls us through. What I have realized is that one has to go through a bad patch to learn and come out stronger. No mater how much we are coached, it is difficult to introspect and learn without a jolt in life

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